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  1. How is that going? Is it an annual show? Are there potential sponsors in Thailand? What about abroad? Any massive Western brands trying to get a foothold? I am thinking about this for myself as well since I am throwing one ladies show but bleeding money; will need sponsor to do it again. Can Masters apply leverage to stadia? Systematization rather than blunt favors? You must be making such a great (huge) cultural rupture by forging these connections through the library.
  2. I assume there is no comparable rise of young adult fighters in the bourgeois class... Does everything depend on this early training? I would answer the question ‘yes’ (I cannot bear watching swimmers who learned as adults, having started competing at 4). But if change must happen, how do you see it occurring? Just the death of the sport for women? Watering down? A big avenue for women’s improvement is clearly you guys recording the Masters & interacting with them such that a female fighter is modeled to be as serious, no, more serious than the young men (Sylvie). This is having a global impact of course with people coming to the summit from all around and studying your archive. What is the relation of young Thai female fighters to the Masters (male), and to global fighters coming in? Do you see any future through this synthesis?
  3. Top King are super nice. Closer to the shin than my poofy ones. I’d love to try them but I wonder about my leg length; they look short & I’m long (plus I just dropped $ on the Yokkao’s so obviously cannot). Can’t see the gloves too well. “Danger”? Gloves nice & banged up. The best. Shin guards are, sorry to be an artist about it, but they’re kind of beautiful.
  4. Mind you I went for five years in a pair of shitty mma guards that came with a package deal at an old gym of mine, but these feel like a #^*#}} CADILLAC when compared. Comfortable, thick, color makes me happy. What are your favorites, Coach James?
  5. Yeah. Plus not just ambiguous and ill-conceived (or conceived when inheritance was the defining factor), but practically speaking not the best political rhetoric because it’s so blamey-pants (which puts people on the defensive).
  6. I particularly like the phrase “general tide”. I’m always a huge fan of elegant ways to describe prevailing terms. I sometimes use the word “patriarchy” cause it’s accurate. But It’s painful to use, actually physically hurts, and many people (including myself as a teen) simply go blank. So a tide - beautiful. This is so interesting. I do an annual “wild goals for the year” sheet and what you write about Sylvie is true for me too. I write in the plainest terms, force myself to make elevated goals (and yes I meet them), but there is a feeling of looking around sort of furtively as I write. Wtf.
  7. Ah Kaitlyn I’m not sure what happened to your fantastic comment but I am glad I caught it. It’s extremely interesting that you observe a lot of progress comes from opposite sex coaches. I only know one female coach in a different style of fighting around here, and because she is a dragon (very rough), it takes a very particular person to train with her and at a high level yeah - it’s young men, not women (and I train with her son)! I wonder why this is. Thank you for all your thoughts, very much. Congratulations on your great fight btw. Can’t wait til you fight again. (Maybe my mobile is just not showing it or you wanted to reconsider something which is all fine; just happy to read it).
  8. I am something more like this, except I had almost over-trained my functional self in years of sobriety, such that the “crazy” kept leaking out around the edges. Fight training has been a godsend, restored me to sanity not least because I don’t have to pretend I’m something else. Violence for fun was normal in my family.
  9. Sent a screen cap of this post to Pari. It’s a great article right? Very clear perspective. She is very smart & works so hard and has been so crucial to the lady’s fight night I’m holding in a couple weeks. She says she feels so cool to be on your site!
  10. Ah ok they are using it in a physics sense. Definitely needed to read that. Never took physics, but get that it describes an aspect of movement in connection with time.
  11. I am interested to read you understand this as a trainable quality rather than something you have innately or not. I would love to read your experience with bringing it out in people (though I know you are asking for others’ point of view).
  12. Did not mean to make it "if" there are clear terms lol. But evidently I did. Thanks. I am really enjoying the new improved forum. Very rich.
  13. Yeah I guess I see passive aggression as aggression flat out. My point of view comes from being annoyed at American white females for using the tool of victim behavior as a powerful weapon. I love passive aggression in, like you say, the Samart backing up, the Thai Champion enraging the French boxer, and you as a bartender. I do it myself. I just think on a meta level there is a habit of princessy victimhood in my own culture (and i don't exempt myself) that can be remedied by experience of harnessing direct aggression (hence my posing martial arts for women). You can expand the phenomenon of aligning with the powerful, acting submissive to do it and throwing other to the winds (aka cultural passive aggression) in early U.S. voting rights (black women didn't get the vote - who did that? White women), current states overturning abortion laws (all white women doing it, disproportionately affects women of color). But I am going far afield from James' question. Sorry James. My final thought is one has to be able to use all kinds of concealed and overt aggression in life and in fighting, and not rely on just one.
  14. Well I think I was trying to cheat and just read your post since I am trying to get the kids off to school, do chores, chase chickens etc. I'll read it later if there are clear terms.
  15. I am interested to read this. I always thought of the killer instinct as more of a buried quality that is either there or not (perhaps dependent on trauma or some combination of genetics and nurture). Then the instinct should be trained for self-control, but there are examples of people who don't like fighting but who must for economic reasons (in Western boxing; I'm not familiar with how people talk about it in Thailand. You can distinguish domination from aggression and that is elegant but it still takes a certain amount of aggression to want to push people around. You typical submissive person does not try that). I've definitely seen fighters at the gym quit fighting cause eh, they are not really fighters? Too sweet? Have you had athletes you could not bring this out in? Is this why you ask the question, James?
  16. Quite interesting and makes intuitive sense, especially your points about the industrial age. A cascade of sand is such a nice way of thinking about physical and mental, even emotional epiphanies, as well as waking up. Its always good for my horribly perfectionistic brain to find another way to think about errors as productive as well. I am wondering if you would be so kind as to define the brain in "criticality" under these terms a bit more.
  17. I know you are responding to Kevin but I would add that as a student I’m super happy sparring with people bigger & heavier than me; My favorite person is 6’4” about 260. He’s a pro and he schools me but it’s just, for me, delightful seeing the many ways he gets ahead of me. I also trust him, not just because of skill but because I know 99% of the time he has to really cut down in his power to get any work (holding pads for him is like a metal concert, tooth-rattling; I love it).
  18. This is super NOT off topic. It’s definitely a social condition of gym life. I’ve been lucky to meet a free great, generous & skilled women, and I’ve met two who had it out for any women perceived to take coach attention from them. Sometimes it’s sexual, sometimes it’s Daddy issues (both?). But either way like you & Sylvie pointed out, it’s a side effect of scarcity. I like your Realpolitik attitude (“more power to the sexy girl garnering attention, or the rough girl destroying shins).
  19. Oh that's interesting. I always love being underestimated ("not seen as threat") cause it gets you in the door so many places in life, insulting as it can be. I wonder if the lack of sharing and competitiveness for Western men in Thailand is because of being a threat, or general non-compliant or unknowingly disrespectful behavior. Anyway huge cheers to the advantages of going in slick (poor little female), getting the tricks!
  20. Andy this is gold. So interesting about the wide stance for men, and I know the "cat paw" well lol. Funny that it is universal. I appreciate you getting so concrete about how men and women actually work in a gym. Your gym sounds like a great place and I like what you say about the actual "fight in them". That must be something you can only see under duress, and its beautiful that it has NOTHING to do with gender. Love it.
  21. Yes the size issue really plays into it. I love getting partnered with people my size although in the end my favorite training partner is 11 inches shorter than me, 30 lbs lighter. She may not like dealing with me but she's the best (Michelle Duff). Thanks again for your thoughts.
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