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Hey Everyone,

Emma and I are going to experiment with a podcast. If it's successful we'll aim for a monthly schedule, but tomorrow we're recording our debut broadcast with a "theme" of revisiting the concept of "gym hopping."

At the end of every podcast we'll try to answer/cover questions sent in, so please feel free to post your questions here, email them to sylvie@8limbs.us or private message on either my FB page or Emma's FB page

Also, if you have any suggestions for "themes" or topics you'd like covered, let us know. And lastly, we don't have a name for the podcast yet, so those suggestions are also welcomed and appreciated!

 

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I think your first podcast went really well. I enjoyed hearing about what was going on with all the different fighters and the general state of female muay thai in Thailand. Maybe that could be a regular segment of each podcast.

Glad you liked it! We hope to make that a regular thing. In each episode we'll talk about what's going on in female Muay Thai in Thailand, discussing specific shows and fighters. If there's anything else you'd particularly like to hear, let us know!

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Glad you liked it! We hope to make that a regular thing. In each episode we'll talk about what's going on in female Muay Thai in Thailand, discussing specific shows and fighters. If there's anything else you'd particularly like to hear, let us know!

Until now I had always read your posts in my head with an American accept, its kinda tripping me out to read your posts in your real voice now  :laugh:

 

Great first episode, I agree with Dtrick that talking about the female fight scene and the different fighters is a good topic to discuss on the podcast.

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I like hearing English next to American, I swear we speak really informal... 

 

I only listened to 10mins 'cause I'm going to sleep, but I enjoyed it. I am really out the loop in terms of female Muay Thai and this is a good way to get into it, on top of that podcasts are good to put on in the background.  :smile:  :thanks:

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I'm so happy to hear people are enjoying the first podcast! If anyone has time, we'd really appreciate a quick review/rating over at the iTunes store, as reviews and ratings can really help establish a podcast. And since we're a bit of an odd one (women talking about Muay Thai, who both happen to also be fighters), it's important for us to get a little bit of ground.

You can review and/or rate here: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/two-ladies-in-kingdom-woman/id1083107907

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I'm so happy to hear people are enjoying the first podcast! If anyone has time, we'd really appreciate a quick review/rating over at the iTunes store, as reviews and ratings can really help establish a podcast. And since we're a bit of an odd one (women talking about Muay Thai, who both happen to also be fighters), it's important for us to get a little bit of ground.

You can review and/or rate here: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/two-ladies-in-kingdom-woman/id1083107907

 

I submitted a review but it didn't go through, unless they have to be confirmed? I'll try again tomorrow.

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Based on the advertisment I get on my Instagram and Facebook after coming back from Thailand I started to wonder about the importance of 'romantic love' and marriage in Thai culture.

I made Facebook friends with some of the trainers from the gym I was staying at and when I looked through their profiles they had these gorgeous wedding pictures (mostly western-style clothes) or sweet couple pics EVERYWHERE.

So, knowing that "first girlfriend is the wife, second gf is best friend, third gf is cousin and fourth is acquiantace" as I heard in Phuket, how does it relate to the "romantic love" and showing off their wives to people on Facebook? On one hand, they show their lovey-dovey relationships with their wives, but are still ready to cheat on them? Or does it depend on the person? I have to add that most of the guys I speak about where aged 25-35.

I mean, are they players or not? I read a blog post - I think it was Milk.Blitz.Street.Bomb about the "wife" and "girlfriend" aspect of Thais, so I'm not really sure how this relates to reality now.

I also heard stories of girls coming to the camp and sleeping with most of the trainers during their stay. I can't wrap my mind around it - like, how is it even possible?! 

If you know something about this topic, I'll be happy to hear about it.

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I also heard stories of girls coming to the camp and sleeping with most of the trainers during their stay. I can't wrap my mind around it - like, how is it even possible?! 

I have no clue how this is possible, but this really annoys me. When I was in Indonesia my friends friend (what do you call them?) took me back to my dorm so their was me and 2 females, and a local said 'oh bule is taking two prostitutes into his room'. 

But at the same time, people can have sex with whoever they choose - as long as its consensual, what annoys me is the negative reaction two innocent females got just for being with a foreigner... I guess negative stereotypes happen to every race though and I'm just being a baby, lol.

bule = farang

 

Edit: Just thinking about this, I think this would have more of a negative impact for women as I know other females have talked about really flirty Thai trainers, is this a result of the sex with foreigners at the camp? Or is this how (generally) Thai trainers are? :mellow:

I don't know; I'm just wondering what you all think, knowledge is power. :thanks:

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Until now I had always read your posts in my head with an American accept, its kinda tripping me out to read your posts in your real voice now  :laugh:

 

Great first episode, I agree with Dtrick that talking about the female fight scene and the different fighters is a good topic to discuss on the podcast.

You should also read her posts with more swearing. Emma's real classy and cleans up her language for public consumption, but if you want the full-effect you really have to add some swearing. 

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Based on the advertisment I get on my Instagram and Facebook after coming back from Thailand I started to wonder about the importance of 'romantic love' and marriage in Thai culture.

I made Facebook friends with some of the trainers from the gym I was staying at and when I looked through their profiles they had these gorgeous wedding pictures (mostly western-style clothes) or sweet couple pics EVERYWHERE.

So, knowing that "first girlfriend is the wife, second gf is best friend, third gf is cousin and fourth is acquiantace" as I heard in Phuket, how does it relate to the "romantic love" and showing off their wives to people on Facebook? On one hand, they show their lovey-dovey relationships with their wives, but are still ready to cheat on them? Or does it depend on the person? I have to add that most of the guys I speak about where aged 25-35.

I mean, are they players or not? I read a blog post - I think it was Milk.Blitz.Street.Bomb about the "wife" and "girlfriend" aspect of Thais, so I'm not really sure how this relates to reality now.

I also heard stories of girls coming to the camp and sleeping with most of the trainers during their stay. I can't wrap my mind around it - like, how is it even possible?! 

If you know something about this topic, I'll be happy to hear about it.

Infidelity is pretty normal here. It's the subject of every other song. Pi Nu used to run a Snooker club behind the gym, which is now the weight room. He said there was a Thai guy who was just always, always there playing pool and his wife was a "bar girl," which is a semi-euphemism for a prostitute. In fact, quite a few prostitutes are married; it's just a job. Anyway, this woman would hook up with western men as the kind of "girlfriend for hire" which is very common here and she would bring the western men to the Snooker club and introduce her husband as her "brother." So they'd totally interact, go to dinner, she'd go home to her husband and tell her western boyfriend she was at her "brother's house." So, it goes both ways but waaaaay more open and expected of men.

So, from what I've experienced, Thai men don't hide that they're married even when pursuing other relationships. Maybe if they're trying to hook up with a western woman at the gym they might not mention it, but I can't even picture anyone asking in those kinds of situations.

We can definitely talk about "sex and dating in Muay Thai gyms," on the podcast.

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